When It Hits Hard: How I Found My Way Back to Calm

(and Why I Created a Guide to Help You Do the Same)

A woman self-soothing after an anxiety attack.

There are moments in life that feel like they come out of nowhere.

One minute you’re fine, moving through your day like normal…and the next, something inside you shifts.

A memory, a worry, a silence, a feeling, something lands just the right way, and suddenly your chest tightens, your throat thickens, and your eyes burn with the weight of it.

I had one of those moments recently.

I won’t go into the deeply personal details, but I will say this:

It hit hard.

Harder than I expected.

Harder than I wanted it to.

And even with all of my self-awareness practices, all the healing I’ve done, all the emotional tools I’ve learned over the years, the wave still rose fast.

For a moment, I felt that familiar rush: the breath catching, the mind spinning, the urge to run or cry or shut down completely.

But this time… something different happened.

Instead of collapsing into the feeling, I paused just long enough to reach for the simplest tool I had:

I put my hand on my chest.

I placed my other hand on my stomach.

And I breathed downward.

Not up into my throat

Not up into the pressure behind my eyes

But down into my belly, into the ground, into steadiness.

And for the first time in a long time, the wave didn’t carry me away.

It moved through me.

Slowly, steadily, gently.

I used every grounding tool I’ve learned:

• calming my body before my mind

• interrupting the story my shadow tried to tell

• shifting my attention to something meaningful and structured

• choosing a distraction that supported me instead of numbing me

Every step helped soften the moment until the intensity eased and I could finally exhale again.

When the calm settled back into my body, I felt two things:

relief… and clarity.

Relief that I had gotten through the wave without drowning in it.

And clarity that I’m not the only one who has moments like this, not by a long shot.

I know so many people who experience these heavy waves: during anxiety spikes, grief, trauma triggers, depression dips, or simply life being life.

It reminded me how much we all need something simple, accessible, and gentle to reach for when things feel too big.

That’s why I created my new free mini guide:

“When It Hits Hard: Your Gentle Plan for Getting Through Triggered Moments.”

It’s the exact 4-step self-soothing process I used that day, the same one that brought me back to calm when the world felt too loud inside my chest.

Inside the guide, you’ll find:

• a clear explanation of what triggers really are

• the grounding breath that stopped my rising panic

• simple distractions that actually help (and why)

• a quick plan you can screenshot for emergencies

• gentle reflection prompts

• a final note for the moments you need reassurance

I made it because I needed it, and I know others will too.

My trigger moment was an emergency for me. I wish that I had had a quick reference at the time.

But because I didn't, now you will.

If you’ve ever had a moment that hit harder than you expected…if your throat has ever tightened, or your eyes have burned, or your heart has raced for reasons you couldn’t fully explain…

This guide was made for you.

You don’t have to navigate those moments alone.

You don’t have to sit in silence or shame.

And you absolutely do not have to be swallowed by the wave.

There is a gentle way back.

And I hope this guide helps you find it.

Download “When It Hits Hard” here.

Your heart deserves gentleness, especially on the hard days.

And I’m right here walking this journey with you.

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